Friday, July 22, 2016

People Stories – Kristy, Monica, Nicole

Sunday, July 17 was our first Sunday back at BBC after 10 weeks in the US. We loved seeing our BBC friends again and meeting new visitors. As always, we love to talk with everyone, and Mark invites many to our home for dinner. We find that visiting in a home much more relaxing and refreshing than meeting people in restaurants. Among the new people we met this past Sunday, three young ladies (sisters in JC) came to our apartment for dinner on Thursday night.

Kristy
Although Kristy grew up in Mexico, she has lived in Germany for about 10 years, earning her PhD and working in process engineering. She came to Beijing on a wastewater treatment project that will bring her back every few months. What a delight to get to know her briefly this time, and we hope to keep in touch as she continues to make business trips here.

Monica
Monica, an American with Chinese heritage, is a professor of philosophy at a university in Boston. Since we had made our first trip to Boston in 2013, we enjoyed comparing notes of the city and talking about her work of introducing young college students to the world of philosophical thinking, teaching them to ask questions such as what is the meaning of life? And how does one fit into that meaning? She is in Beijing taking a two-week philosophy course to enhance her teaching.

Nicole
Nicole, from Singapore of Chinese descent, came to Beijing for a summer internship between her junior and senior years of university studies majoring in economics. She reminded us of other Singaporean college students we have met who study abroad and find internships abroad. She will stay here a few more weeks so we hope to have more time to encourage her in her walk with JC.

Mark (in his Cameroon shirt), Kristy, Monica, Nicole, Cheryl

Wet Wednesday

We are now back in Beijing, several weeks earlier than usual. Our normal weather experience here includes dry, smoggy days with very little precipitation. Sometimes we get a few inches of snow in the winter; sometimes we get a day of light rain. We have heard that Beijing receives 70% of its annual rainfall in July & August. As such, we have not experienced that -- until now.  I need to remember to carry an umbrella. However, not even an umbrella nor raincoat helped this past Wednesday when we made two treks to visit friends. One set of friends lives a 10 minute walk. The other set lives about 1 hour away, a trek that includes a bus ride, walk to the subway, subway, walk from the subway to our old apartment complex near Olympic Forest Park. When we arrived at their apartment, our friend greeted us at his door with a laugh and a dry towel. Sometimes in the name of friendship, we are foolish.






Monday, July 11, 2016

The Exchange

Mark & I are now preparing to return to BJ in just two days. After a 5 week attempt to secure our visas, they finally arrived in the mail on Saturday. Although we didn't get the visa arrangement we had originally applied for, we thank our faithful Father that we do have an acceptable visa. We had wondered if we would have to change our itinerary to accommodate late arriving documents. However, as usual, our Father is never late, but rarely early. Times like these help us trust Him more, pray more, and wait for His perfectly timed answers.

Part of our arrangement with BBC is that Mark would find people to fill in when we are stateside. Each summer we have arranged for couples to come over to be an 'exchange leader', much like an 'exchange student' in a university.

With their permission and some minor editing for protection, below is a beautiful summary that our friend Jamie wrote reflecting on his, his wife's, and their CBA daughter's time month in BJ.

The saints who worship at BBC come from all over the world. Our last Sunday there, attendance was down because many who are teachers have gone home for the summer. Even so, we had at least 36 in attendance (that’s how many stayed around for the photo) from at least 17 different countries! For many, English is not their first language. This is a highly motivated, highly educated, and highly mobile congregation. Many are teachers. Some are in BJ for business purposes. Some are diplomats from other countries. Quite a few are in the country for kingdom purposes. I’d like to share with you about a few of the people we enjoyed fellowship with.

We were greeted at the airport by Daniel, who teaches English. He was a tremendous help to us as he introduced us to life in BJ and helped us make those initial adjustments.

We were quickly introduced to the others who are in Mark & Cheryl’s community group – Lwazi and Nwabisa, a dear couple who arrived from South Africa just this year (Lwazi teaches high school math), a seasoned “servant” couple from the US, Ashley, a young woman who also teaches English, and Daniel. The next week Ashley took Lydia and Haley out for a night to paint the town, or at least to paint their nails!

 Our first Sunday we went to lunch with a large group. Some of them had been in BJ for quite a few years, representing a number of different countries. The bond between them was very sweet. Most of the teachers were preparing to return home for the summer.

I was able to attend another community group meeting, composed exclusively of single teachers (at least that evening), and it was so rich to see the way they ministered to one another. The insight and maturity they demonstrated as they discussed very sensitive issues was inspiring to me! By my third Sunday at BBC, almost all of that group had returned to their homes for summer break.

Our first Sunday on the way home we met a couple in the subway who were from America. They are of local descent, but like Haley, don’t know a word of the language. He is here for a three-month assignment and they are very committed believers. We invited them to BBC, and they have attended every Sunday since and have quickly been embraced by the members.

We spent a lot of time enjoying fellowship and touring with our dear friends Lwazi and Nwabisa. Because they were relatively new as well, they had not visited many of the sights, so they did so with us – the Great Wall, the Summer Palace, Olympic Park. The many hours of fellowship we enjoyed with them were precious indeed.

Sascha, a very dear brother from Germany, took us to lunch our first week. He came to Faith in JC four years ago, but his wife is hostile to the truth and to his faith. This dear brother has such a humble and gentle spirit and is a tremendous blessing to so many in the church. Our second Sunday we had lunch with the other deacon and his Australian family.

We were joined for lunch by a young couple from Germany, who arrived a few months ago for a three-year assignment with Mercedes Benz. She looked up bodies on the internet, found BBC, and they started attending. I asked her at lunch how she came to faith, and she quickly changed the subject. This past Sunday, after our service, I spoke to her again and apologized for being so abrupt. She was very gracious, and shared with me that she feels like she was close to becoming a believer, but recently gotten farther away. As I encouraged her with the gospel, tears began to run down her face. She surely is near the kingdom!

Our third Sunday we had lunch with a newly married couple; he is from Cameroon and France, she is local. Mark and Cheryl did their premarital counseling, and Mark performed their wedding ceremony. What a joy to hear how the Lord brought them together and to see how God is using them in people’s lives.

We were privileged to have dinner in the homes of two diplomat families. One was the Minister of Trade from Malawi; the other brother is a diplomat in the Indian Embassy. He met his wife, a lovely Xn woman from a Muslim family, while he was stationed in Tajikistan. Our time with both of these families was wonderfully encouraging.

This past Sunday we enjoyed lunch with Barnabas, a teacher from Hungary, and his dear fiancée Gracelee from the Philippines. Mark and Cheryl did their premarital counseling as well and they returned to her home last week to be married! It was a delight to hear how God brought them together and how He is using them in BJ.

One of the high points of our trip was our visit to the orphanage in Bengbu, where Haley spent her first year. We had arranged to visit the orphanage through a young man who is from BJ but is now a US citizen and a regular attender at BBC. Our dear friend Alan translated for us and served as our interpreter and guide for the journey.

The welcome Haley received at the orphanage was overwhelming. They were so thrilled to have her return. We were greeted by a large neon sign that said “Welcome Home” and included her local name! Two of the women who cared for her during her first year were still there, and they remembered how happy Haley was as a baby! They even gave Haley a lovely fresh-water pearl necklace, which was from pearls harvested in Bengbu, as a reminder of the city where she once lived.

We were also greatly encouraged to meet a family who live in the same building with Mark & Cheryl. The wife is a relatively new believer; her husband has not trusted in JC, but he has commented that she is a better wife now that she is a believer. They are both fluent in English, so we were able to enjoy a delightful evening with them. Lydia had many opportunities with the wife, and was able to pray with her and encourage her to find a body to join. It was a tremendous joy to see Lydia moving toward all sorts of different women and minister to them in a host of creative ways.  

 I want to share with you some observations as I reflect on my month with BBC.

First, it is a very diverse congregation, as stated earlier. It was like a taste of heaven, worshiping with people from many different “tribes and nations and peoples and languages.”

Second, they are a very mobile congregation. Many of the teachers who were there our first Sunday returned to their home countries for the summer. Several members were leaving BJ for good – saying their final goodbyes as the congregation prayed for them at the end of the services. At the same time, we had several new families and singles start to attend during our time there – some will be in BJ for just a few months (or only visiting a week or two), while others will be there for several years. But there are no twenty- or thirty-year members at BBC. The turnover is challenging in terms of developing deep relationships and consistent leadership, but it’s thrilling that the impact of ministry that will extend around the world!

Third, it is a very spread out congregation. BJ is an enormous city and the people are spread out all over the city. Most of the members spend upwards of an hour (each way) commuting, which makes midweek fellowship very challenging. Lydia noted that for young mothers, this is particularly challenging.

Fourth, this is a very focused and resourceful congregation. They are all expatriats, meaning they have come to BJ from other countries. The reasons for their being in country are diverse, but they are a highly motivated group of individuals who have made the significant efforts to relocate and live in a culture very different from their own. They know how to remain flexible and to persevere through all sorts of challenges. It seems that most we met have learned to communicate in the local language, which is no small accomplishment. In general they are a highly motivated, professional group of people.

Fifth, it is a very caring congregation. Many of the members have a very strong orientation toward personal labor anyway and can all identify with the unique challenges other expats experience, so the ways they serve one another was a blessing to see. Despite the fact that most are there a relatively short time, most are intentional about developing meaningful relationships.

Sixth, a number of the couples come from different races, countries, and cultures. It was very interesting to talk about the challenges many of them faced, whether the disapproval from extended families, different cultural expectations, or difficulty seeing extended families in different countries or even hemispheres!

Seventh, they are a very young congregation. Almost all are only a few years out of college. Four of the families have newborn babies. Some of these couples shared how very difficult it is for their parents back home to have their grandchildren living so far away.

And eighth, most of them are very busy people. It would be easy for many people to allow their daily activities to provide most of their fellowship, making their involvement in the body little more than attending once a week. Others work very long hours in various professions that can be very demanding. Additionally, the inconveniences of living in a foreign country - and such a spread-out city - all combine to make building a sense of community more difficult.

All these situations present unique pastoral challenges and opportunities. 





Dinner with a high school exchange student in GV and her family.



At Haley's orphanage