We met Peter about one week after the Lord had saved him in
November 2016. Since that time we have spent lots of time together; he has
consistently come to our Guys’ Night; and we have connected with his pastor.
When I think of how he has grown and changed, I say WOW! God really does
transform people and make them new creatures. Although we didn’t know him as a nonchristian,
he has shared some about his past. He often tells us about his family life and
how the brokenness of his parents’ divorce affects him. When he spends the
night with us on Guys’ Night (he lives far away), we always have thoughtful
discussions about how to apply biblical principles to his life and problems.
Recently we talked about how, knowingly or not, he will
carry attitudes from his current relationships with his parents into a future
marriage. We could see that he had never thought about that before. So then how
does the gospel change our relationships, or our thinking about relationships,
toward our nonchristian family members? Only God can change relationships, but
we can use principles from God’s Word to change our thinking about our relationships. God calls us to focus our
thinking on thoughts that are true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, and
commendable. “If there is anything worthy of praise, think on these things”
(Phil. 4:8). We talked about how love is a commitment. Yes, true, but what does
that mean toward people who are difficult to love or who treat you like an
enemy? How can he show love by committing to do the highest good for his
parents? Difficult questions without easy answers.
Please pray for Peter as he navigates difficult
relationships and seeks to apply gospel wisdom to them.